Boundaries

Boundaries

There is no intimacy without boundaries.

Boundaries, set appropriately, create intimacy.

Boundaries are not solely what we say they are what we do when our beliefs and entitlements have been violated.

The truth about boundaries is they free us (by keeping us on track and focused) to fulfill the purpose of our creation and have peace and be happy. The least boundaries do is protect us from people who feel entitled to violate (intentionally or unintentionally) our boundaries to meet their needs.

A subtle boundary destroyer is being too busy, distraction. Daily meditative time offers us the time we need to deliberately create our emotional world spiritually first (with the guidance of our Creator) by visualizing ourselves moving through our day, our world, in our relationships before it becomes our reality.

There are all kinds of Personal boundaries.
Physical boundaries.
Sexual boundaries.
Spiritual boundaries.
Emotional boundaries.
Religious boundaries.
Mental boundaries.
Social boundaries.
Etc.

Trust is a part of the foundation of any healthy, successful relationship. Setting clear boundaries allow others who love us show us their love by respecting our boundaries and welcoming what they can do to honor our unique self. In this way boundaries create an environment of trust.

Before we can be powerful in unity it is requisite that we have strength in our separate identity.

Enmeshment and intimacy is not the same.

Intimacy is created when two separate, different people come together, willingly open to sharing and disclosing (in reciprocity) their differences and similarities, as well as their strengthens and weaknesses and in return understanding and respect in those differences and similarities is offered by the other. All of this created with appropriate boundaries, that we choose. This is a powerful element of creating an emotionally safe place.
Things that threaten intimacy; a need or demand for agreement, conformity, sameness, arrogance, pride, lack of understanding or empathy in the sharing moment, lack of reciprocity, rejection, being judgmental of the other instead of receiving what is shared, Etc.

This is true in our marriages, in our parent child relationships, in our friendships, in our communities of church and work, neighborhoods etc. The level of appropriate disclosure is relative to the relationship.

Intimacy and charity are close companions.

Boundary foundation

God is Light and Truth (DC 93:9) We are all children of God (Psalms 82:6). We are intelligent beings. Intelligence has always existed. Intelligence is made up of Truth and Light (DC 93: 29-30). This is our Divine Worth and core of our Eternal Identity. The more that Truth and Light fill us (DC93:29-30), the more peace of mind, harmony of heart, and completeness of happiness define us, for real. Peace, inner harmony and happiness are powerful states of being (Christ-like) that naturally create an atmosphere to nurture and grow others into the same. The purpose of boundaries is to honor, add too and protect the Light and Truth that was restored to us (by Christ’s atonement) from our birth on earth (Doctrine and Covenants 93:38). Every child of God is entitled to honor, cultivate and protect the Light and Truth inherently in them.
When we move contrary to our Light and Truth we betray our most core self. When we betray ourselves we trade Light and Truth for darkness, confusion, deceit and we distance ourselves from our Divine Worth and Eternal Identity and most sadly from our Creator. This causes us to forget what and who we inherently are (Moses 5:9-15) and our beliefs, words and behavior entropy (DC 93::39) into thinking that our fallen state (without Christ’s atonement) defines us, eventually we allow others to do the same.
Betrayal from others is when, for whatever reason, they treat us other than who and what we are, my use of criticism or manipulation, it is all for personal gain whether conscious or not. We are all entitled to define and set our own boundaries, tailored to our unique levels of comfort, that maintain, nurture and protect our Divine Worth and Eternal Identity.
Our priesthood covenants are agreed upon boundaries that we willingly enter into, in which both God and we, promise that we will remember who we are and keep that perspective in mind as we live out mortality.