What happens to our emotionality in strictly religious settings, where parental intentions are good, but personal gain/focus weighs too heavy (as evidenced through fear of what other’s will think of our abilities as parents when our children don’t “choose the right” which is in reality “our right” and what is best for us) and emotional coaching skills are too weak to combat a child’s natural response to withdraw and shut down emotionally and spiritually and religion is rejected or becomes something rooted in self discipline giving birth to worship for personal gain ( personal image) or solely out of duty and obligation set in personal resistance. And who is at the focus of this survival mode birthed through a need for parental approval while denying oneself? An inflated and distorted sense of “Self” or in other words a fragile core. To me this shares so many elements of Satan’s plan of personal glory through personal gain whose foundation is force and coercion.
In this way humility is lost because honest humility’s fundamental step is emotional honesty and our acceptance of our most vulnerable and emotionally raw self. Denial of our honest emotions is the foundation of pride, personal protection out of desperation and the fast current of moving our escapes to levels of addiction. The power of emotional honesty or humility and acceptance of where we are emotionally, is we are never alone in it. It is only in that moment where we can feel fully the presence of God and His deep and abiding love for us as manifested in the atonement of Christ. His encircling arms are ever present in that broken hearted moment as we are stripped of pride and swallowed in the power of His desire forgive us and love us it is impossible to not feel our own desire to open and extend our heart more to receive even more of Him if possible. In our newfound desire to be open to His influence we diligently seek to know what we can do to please Him, to serve Him and our willingness to live in accordance with our desire easily manifests in our daily practices and habits in seeking and doing His will before our own or someone else’s.
The doctrine of humility, yielding or will or a broken heart and a contrite (willing) spirit is the key to charity, the pure love of Christ and becoming like Him. It is in our constant striving to become like Christ that our happiness is ensured and His promise linked to it is fulfilled. Determination to protect and maintain a broken heart and a contrite spirit or a soft heart (towards God’s will for us and in our dealing with other’s Matt 25:40) in times of adversity expedite the opportunity for our personal growth, happiness and the Holy Ghost’s ability to sanctify us through refining. These godly characteristics further prepare us to be in His glorious presence so that we might receive in our mortality bit by bit a fullness of all that He has and all that He is, all starts with emotional honesty and acceptance of where we are and a desire to turn to Christ so that He can help us to know Him and become like Him.
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Manipulation 2
Manipulation 2
Everyone is vulnerable to manipulation.
I think we develop some of the following "fragile core self” characteristics when we have been in a relationship with a Toxic person. We learn (we are trained) to get along with them adopting some of the following characteristics in the name of self preservation and emotional survival. Just be aware that this survival mode although once helpful makes you a prime target for manipulation.
You are more vulnerable to manipulation if:
1. Your identity is defined by others approval of you, if your sense of peace is dependent on agreeing with others, if your sense of worth comes from pleasing others. You are responsible for forming your identity.
2. You believe your sense of identity and “self” needs to be invisible to get along with others. You are responsible for asserting your “self” so that those who love you can understand and honor you.
3. If your afraid of negative emotions; yours or someone else’s. You’re are responsible to learn the self reflective lessons of your negative emotions, these help give your identity shape.
4. If you’re overly responsible. You are responsible for maintaining a balance in your responsibilities ie. not feeling overwhelmed. You are also responsible for not stealing someone else’s opportunity to learn, grow and feel empowered.
5.If you see yourself as a victim, powerlessness or suffer from learned helplessness or poverty of belief. You are responsible for seeing the that you are the most powerful agent in your life and looking for the opportunities that reinforce that truth.
6. If you doubt yourself, distrust your emotions and your own judgment. You are responsible for recognizing and trusting your feelings so that you can understand the truth of yourself. If you don’t recognize and count your feelings as important, in other words, trust your feelings, no one else will either.
Until you change or modify your beliefs about yourself, you will continue to be a prime target for manipulation.
Everyone is vulnerable to manipulation.
I think we develop some of the following "fragile core self” characteristics when we have been in a relationship with a Toxic person. We learn (we are trained) to get along with them adopting some of the following characteristics in the name of self preservation and emotional survival. Just be aware that this survival mode although once helpful makes you a prime target for manipulation.
You are more vulnerable to manipulation if:
1. Your identity is defined by others approval of you, if your sense of peace is dependent on agreeing with others, if your sense of worth comes from pleasing others. You are responsible for forming your identity.
2. You believe your sense of identity and “self” needs to be invisible to get along with others. You are responsible for asserting your “self” so that those who love you can understand and honor you.
3. If your afraid of negative emotions; yours or someone else’s. You’re are responsible to learn the self reflective lessons of your negative emotions, these help give your identity shape.
4. If you’re overly responsible. You are responsible for maintaining a balance in your responsibilities ie. not feeling overwhelmed. You are also responsible for not stealing someone else’s opportunity to learn, grow and feel empowered.
5.If you see yourself as a victim, powerlessness or suffer from learned helplessness or poverty of belief. You are responsible for seeing the that you are the most powerful agent in your life and looking for the opportunities that reinforce that truth.
6. If you doubt yourself, distrust your emotions and your own judgment. You are responsible for recognizing and trusting your feelings so that you can understand the truth of yourself. If you don’t recognize and count your feelings as important, in other words, trust your feelings, no one else will either.
Until you change or modify your beliefs about yourself, you will continue to be a prime target for manipulation.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Peacemaker 1
November 3, 2009 Tuesday
“For the time speedily cometh that the Lord God shall cause a great division among the people,…..”
(2 Nephi 30:10)
Those that know peace will divide from those that do not know peace.
“…..the wolf dwell with the lamb;…..”
(2 Nephi 30:12)
“Let the mountains shout for joy, and all ye valleys cry aloud; and all ye seas and dry lands tell the wonders of your Eternal King! And ye rivers, and brooks, and rills, flow down with gladness. Let the woods and all the trees of the field praise the Lord; and ye solid rocks weep for joy! And let the sun, moon, and the morning stars sing together, and let all the sons of God shout for joy! And let the eternal creations declare his name forever and ever! And again I say, how glorious is the voice we hear from heaven, proclaiming in our ears, glory, and salvation, and honor, and immortality, and eternal life; kingdoms, principalities, and powers!”
(DC 128:23)
All living things will know peace.
“They shall not hurt nor destroy in all my holy mountain…..”
(2 Nephi 30:15)
“And it shall come to pass in the last days, that the mountain of the LORD’s house shall be established in the top of the mountains, and shall be exalted above the hills; and all nations shall flow unto it.
And many people shall go and say, Come ye, and let us go up to the mountain of the LORD, to the house of the God of Jacob; and he will teach us of his ways, and we will walk in his paths: for out of Zion shall go forth the law, and the word of the LORD from Jerusalem.
And he shall judge among the nations, and shall rebuke many people: and they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruninghooks: nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more.” (Isaiah 2:2-4)
The idea of war in any relationship will be confusing.
“…..for the earth shall be full of the knowledge of the Lord as the waters cover the sea.” (2 Nephi 30:15)
“And truth is knowledge of things as they are, and as they were, and as they are to come….Man was also in the beginning with God. Intelligence, or the light of truth,… Light and truth forsake that evil one.” (DC 93: 24, 29, 37)
We will return to our original state, having added to our Light and Truth eternally.
What is the knowledge that will lead us to such peace? The same knowledge that has been revealed to us already, the knowledge that is revealed in our priesthood covenants.
“And this greater priesthood administereth the gospel and holdeth the key of the mysteries of the kingdom, even the key of the knowledge of God.
Therefore, in the ordinances thereof, the power of godliness is manifest.
And without the ordinances thereof, and the authority of the priesthood, the power of godliness is not manifest unto men in the flesh;
For without this no man can see the face of God, even the Father, and live.”
(Section 84:19 - 22)
And…our priesthood covenants gives us access to personal revelation and knowledge of the Truth of the peaceable things of Godliness….as taught by the Holy Ghost.
“If thou shalt ask, thou shalt receive revelation upon revelation, knowledge upon knowledge, that thou mayest know the mysteries and peaceable things—that which bringeth joy, that which bringeth life eternal.”
(Section 42:61)
“Therefore it is given to abide in you…. the Comforter; the peaceable things of immortal glory; the truth of all things; that which quickeneth all things, which maketh alive all things; that which knoweth all things, and hath all power according to wisdom, mercy, truth, justice, and judgment.”
(Moses 6:61)
I deeply appreciate how these things interact inside me each day they have a direct connect to my ability to feel inner peace as well as to make peace in my relationship to those I know and love, to others I don’t know well or at all and to all other living things on earth. I believe a true peacemaker desires all those….peaces.
“For the time speedily cometh that the Lord God shall cause a great division among the people,…..”
(2 Nephi 30:10)
Those that know peace will divide from those that do not know peace.
“…..the wolf dwell with the lamb;…..”
(2 Nephi 30:12)
“Let the mountains shout for joy, and all ye valleys cry aloud; and all ye seas and dry lands tell the wonders of your Eternal King! And ye rivers, and brooks, and rills, flow down with gladness. Let the woods and all the trees of the field praise the Lord; and ye solid rocks weep for joy! And let the sun, moon, and the morning stars sing together, and let all the sons of God shout for joy! And let the eternal creations declare his name forever and ever! And again I say, how glorious is the voice we hear from heaven, proclaiming in our ears, glory, and salvation, and honor, and immortality, and eternal life; kingdoms, principalities, and powers!”
(DC 128:23)
All living things will know peace.
“They shall not hurt nor destroy in all my holy mountain…..”
(2 Nephi 30:15)
“And it shall come to pass in the last days, that the mountain of the LORD’s house shall be established in the top of the mountains, and shall be exalted above the hills; and all nations shall flow unto it.
And many people shall go and say, Come ye, and let us go up to the mountain of the LORD, to the house of the God of Jacob; and he will teach us of his ways, and we will walk in his paths: for out of Zion shall go forth the law, and the word of the LORD from Jerusalem.
And he shall judge among the nations, and shall rebuke many people: and they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruninghooks: nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more.” (Isaiah 2:2-4)
The idea of war in any relationship will be confusing.
“…..for the earth shall be full of the knowledge of the Lord as the waters cover the sea.” (2 Nephi 30:15)
“And truth is knowledge of things as they are, and as they were, and as they are to come….Man was also in the beginning with God. Intelligence, or the light of truth,… Light and truth forsake that evil one.” (DC 93: 24, 29, 37)
We will return to our original state, having added to our Light and Truth eternally.
What is the knowledge that will lead us to such peace? The same knowledge that has been revealed to us already, the knowledge that is revealed in our priesthood covenants.
“And this greater priesthood administereth the gospel and holdeth the key of the mysteries of the kingdom, even the key of the knowledge of God.
Therefore, in the ordinances thereof, the power of godliness is manifest.
And without the ordinances thereof, and the authority of the priesthood, the power of godliness is not manifest unto men in the flesh;
For without this no man can see the face of God, even the Father, and live.”
(Section 84:19 - 22)
And…our priesthood covenants gives us access to personal revelation and knowledge of the Truth of the peaceable things of Godliness….as taught by the Holy Ghost.
“If thou shalt ask, thou shalt receive revelation upon revelation, knowledge upon knowledge, that thou mayest know the mysteries and peaceable things—that which bringeth joy, that which bringeth life eternal.”
(Section 42:61)
“Therefore it is given to abide in you…. the Comforter; the peaceable things of immortal glory; the truth of all things; that which quickeneth all things, which maketh alive all things; that which knoweth all things, and hath all power according to wisdom, mercy, truth, justice, and judgment.”
(Moses 6:61)
I deeply appreciate how these things interact inside me each day they have a direct connect to my ability to feel inner peace as well as to make peace in my relationship to those I know and love, to others I don’t know well or at all and to all other living things on earth. I believe a true peacemaker desires all those….peaces.
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